1) Where does erotic love stand in relation to human existence?
2) Perhaps erotic love is the very end of man’s existence – his final goal, his purpose. If God is dead, then it must be conceded that reproduction is the unconscious irrational driving force behind every decision we make. Erotic love, under this worldview, becomes the primary tool utilized by evolution (please pardon my use of teleological language) in the preservation and further development of a species; it, thus, becomes the very meaning of our existence . . .
3) If, however, erotic love is the end of our existence then human beings are nothing but sexual objects. This is precisely what we see in Western culture today – sexuality has been reduced to a mere biological process, a mere physical happening, and, in consequence, looks no different than the buying and selling of Cod at the fish market. People have become products to be consumed. Women lust after Magic Mike without a care in the world for his soul, his wellbeing, his happiness. Men satiate their sexual appetites through internet porn without a care in the world for the sexual health or individual worth of the actors (or in most cases victims of human trafficking) on their computer screen. We justify this behavior with the soothing notion that human beings are passive agents helplessly blown and tossed by a sea of physical laws and biological determination. Our hands, we say, are simply tied behind our backs.
4) Sexuality becomes something mechanical and base – something devoid of true love and intimacy, something impersonal and selfish – when we live as if erotic love is the end of humanity.
5) What if we made Truth, Beauty, Goodness, Justice, and Love Himself the end of our existence? What if we made living up to the image and likeness of the One who brought us into being our purpose? What if we lived as if other human beings were of great value and importance? What if we embraced erotic love as an act of self-giving instead of an act of narcissistic self-love? What if we defined erotic love as two individuals giving of themselves to each other and becoming one flesh; as the intimate sharing of pleasure between two souls bent on each others happiness? What if we understood that erotic love is a life giving process – the first step in the bringing into being of a new and uniquely special individual?