Secrets and Judgments

The other day on Facebook I was surfing around and found this page called “PostSecrets.” Apparently, it’s a group where people can anonymously post secrets about their life without the fear of anyone ever finding out who the secret belongs to. Here are some of the secrets that have been posted:

“I think I’m a lesbian…and I married a man five months ago.”
“I used my daughter’s urine to pass a drug test to get a job at a prison.”
“I’d rather get skin cancer than be pale.”

As shocking as the above secrets are – in that they show an absolute shallowness, confusion, and depravity in our culture – what is worse are the comments made about the secrets. In the few instances where a voice of reason speaks up and says, “This just isn’t right,” they are met with the following comments:

“If people can’t accept other people for who they are, sucks to be them, there probably missing out on an amazing person anyway. They shouldn’t be able to voice it out so carelessly, cause someone else might share the exact same secret.”
“It’s the person’s own sexual personality. Love just happens.”
“it takes a lot of courage for people to tell their secrets…even anonymously. you shouldn’t judge them…”
“Maybe you should think a little before you judge. Prison is very difficult to deal with. Maybe the drugs are the only way she can deal with it, the only way she can push on, the only way she can keep herself sane for the day she will be with her child.”

A friend of mine was telling me that at work she knows of a girl who is currently having an affair. Of course, things in her marriage are starting to go better because her husband is spending money on her (new purses, new car, etc). So long as he buys her stuff, the marriage is safe.
What has happened to the American culture? People willingly confess to doing horrible things, but we’re not supposed to judge them for it? Though we have all sinned, there are some things we do that are far worse than other things. Letting your dog defecate in your neighbor’s and not picking it up is a far cry better than using your own child to break the law.
As wrong as modernism is, it at least provided some sense of morality. The individual was to be valued, but it was also understood that there was a social contract. The individual, therefore, operated in a way that benefited society and brought society a good name. In our postmodern age of hyper-individualism, the community no longer matters in ethics. If my actions do not drastically alter society’s way of living, so what?
The problem with this way of thinking – and why it needs to be fixed – is that the people saying these things will one day be on a jury. When a man is put on the stand for raping his own daughter, what are these future jurors going to say? “That might be wrong, but who am I to judge?” When a youth is accused of doing a drive by that killed a three-year-old boy, will these jurors say, “But we don’t know why he felt he had to do it, so why judge him?”
America’s great experiment at secularization has drastically failed. We need to start teaching youth that morality extends beyond the individual, beyond society, and beyond creation. Morality is a set standard that is external to human experience and because of this is not subject to change. It also means that we will be held accountable for immoral actions – whether in this life or in the next.
It might sound tolerant and enlightened to say that ethics is dead or that we’ve move beyond good and evil, but tell that to the girl who is being used by her parent or the husband who is about to have his heart broken. Morality does exist and so does judgment.


One thought on “Secrets and Judgments

  1. it seems to me that society has amended hyper-individualism. Those who truly believed that anyone is entitled to their own opinion would not have gotten angry at another for holding the opinion that lying on a drug test is wrong. It seems to me that, at this point, the only ones who are not entitled to their opinion are those who hold conservative opinions. certainly, John 14:6 would not even be considered and Jesus would be hailed as intolerant.

    Christianity is absolutely inconsistent with a post-modern world where there absolute truth does not exist.

    i agree my friend.

    oh, i started a blog. It won’t be as good as yours, probably a bit more silly. but, check it out.

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